Values Clarification Worksheet | Ashé Counseling & Coaching
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What Matters Most.

Approach ACT-inspired
Estimated time 15 minutes
Best for Quieting the noise, finding direction

A values clarification exercise inspired by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Values are the qualities you want to embody — not goals you reach, but directions you move in. Naming yours can quiet a lot of noise.

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i. Sort what matters

What rises to the surface?

Tap a value once to mark it as important to you. Tap again to mark it as essential — one of your top few. A third tap clears it.

Aim for 5–7 essentials. Less is more here — if everything is essential, nothing is.
not selected important essential
Your essentials
ii. Make it your own

In your own words.

Pick your top three values. For each, write what it means to you — not the dictionary definition. How would someone know you were living it?

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iii. Honest check-in

Where does your life align?

For each domain, rate how aligned your daily life feels with your values right now. Gaps are information, not failures.

Relationships & family
Partner, kids, parents, siblings, chosen family.
5
Friendship & community
The people outside your inner circle who matter.
5
Work & contribution
How you spend your working hours and what you build.
5
Health & body
Movement, rest, food, medical care, how you treat yourself.
5
Growth & learning
How you're stretching, curious, becoming.
5
Spirituality & meaning
Faith, ritual, awe, what you orient your life around.
5
Play & rest
Hobbies, leisure, fun that has no productive purpose.
5
Money & resources
How you earn, spend, save, and feel about it.
5
iv. A move toward

One small step.

Look at the domain that scored lowest. Pick one of your essentials. What's one small action this week that would move you, even slightly, in that direction?

v. Anticipate the friction

What pulls you away.

Anticipating obstacles is part of the work. What thoughts, feelings, or circumstances tend to pull you away from living your values?

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