Attachment Style Self-Assessment
A confidential check-in to help you reflect on how you connect in close relationships.
Important Notice
This self-assessment is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a diagnosis and is not a substitute for evaluation by a licensed mental health professional. Attachment styles exist on a continuum and can shift over time, especially with self-awareness, supportive relationships, and therapy.
Instructions: The following statements concern how you generally feel in close, romantic relationships. Respond based on how you feel in your relationships overall — not just how you feel right now in any one relationship. There are 12 questions and no right or wrong answers.
In close relationships, generally:
Your Attachment Style
Your Dimension Scores
Anxiety0.0
How much you worry about partners' availability and care.
Avoidance0.0
How uncomfortable you feel with closeness and emotional intimacy.
The Four Attachment Styles
Secure
Comfortable with closeness and independence. Low anxiety, low avoidance.
Anxious / Preoccupied
Craves closeness, fears abandonment. High anxiety, low avoidance.
Avoidant / Dismissive
Values independence, distances from intimacy. Low anxiety, high avoidance.
Fearful / Disorganized
Wants closeness but fears it. High anxiety, high avoidance.
Based on the ECR-R Short Form (Wei, Russell, Mallinckrodt, & Vogel, 2007), adapted from Fraley, Waller & Brennan (2000). For informational use only.