• MJ Jones

No new friends? Why not?

So for a couple of years the hashtag #nonewfriends popularized by the artist Drake, has been the mantra celebrating friendships with people who have been around before the success. As celebrities such as Drake have to be cautious of individuals that the let in their inner circle for fear of harmed by people with ill intentions. However they still manage to have "bromances" and build relationship with people they meet post success. I am sure those "new friends" some how help maintain that level of success.


However #nonewfriends mantra can be problematic for a few reasons. First, you are closing the door to person who may be a better friend to you than your "old" friends. Not everyone is out get you. You might me someone that you can start fresh with a release old negative patterns, Sometimes we meet people at different stages of our lives. That is the next reason. Our cells regenerate every 7 years, therefore we are not "physically" the same person. Hopefully as we glow up, are taste and interests change. I am not suggesting fundamentally you are not the same person however your personality should evolve. You might find yourself growing apart from friends from high school. That's okay. It is okay to find other people to hang out with that you have more in common with.


The third reason is that you may be holding yourself back. They say, you are the sum of the people you hang around with. Studies have shown that there is usually within a 5,000 a year salary difference between friends. Now don't go dumping your friends to find some rich ones. However you can benefit from those who have reach a level in their lives that you are aspiring to.


Friendships are a vital part of life. It has been reported that older people with friends are more likely to live a healthier happier life than those who do not have many close friends. Older people without close friends are more likely to develop chronic diseases such as heart disease, diabetes, and depression than their counterparts. So don't risk your health, expand your circle and get some new friends.



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